This is the most common question in manifesting community. The trick is to understand they are actually you because nothing else exists. There is only one God and one Spirit that you share. So how to precisely do it? First thing is to recognize yourself in their behavior. Be it bad or good, you must see yourself in them and know they are you to be able to do this. Second thing is, whatever you think you want from them you should give to yourself first. It can be attention, affection, love, touch, laugh, whatever really. When you have it inside of you, you don’t have a need for it to appear in 3d and because you don’t have that need, they show up automatically just as you imagined them. They literally feel the pull to you because they are you, because you are feeling that pull to your true self. They are representation of your relationship with you, they have always been, and everyone before them was. They love you and treat you just as you are treating yourself. You mean the world to them and they never wanna leave you because you now mean the world to you and you know you are never gonna leave you. If you need some more help in understanding this, feel free to contact me or ask any question. I’m here to explain to the best of my ability the things I understood through expirience of oneness.